I try to tell my unattached buddies the same thing…don’t rush. In fact, take your time. Jesus H. Christ, don’t talk about sex or send ominous-looking photos of yourself holding a paddle. Get a frackin clue guys.

For example I met my wife through a shadow lane personal ad. In the ad I didn’t say anything specifically about spanking(since I figured that was already implied by the ad, and the fact that I was dominant and looking for a submissive was covered by the web site categories as well). And I never told her in any letter specifically that I intended to spank her…mostly we just talked about gardening and surfing

The spanking part happened just fine on it’s own, after our first date, and thereafter.