Last week, we discussed where to look for a spanking partner, so now the question is what do you say when you’ve found her? These tips pertain to trying to find a woman, and are based on both good and bad experiences I have personally had. If you’re looking for a man, I can’t speak from that perspective, so these tips may or may not be relevant. Maybe you men out there could comment on what works and doesn’t work for you in terms of how you would like a woman to greet you.

1. Make sure the person you want to get to know is available.

E-mail etiquette. In general, you don’t want to start off with something like “I’m gonna beat your ass until it’s bright red” or “Get over my knee, young lady,” and PLEASE don’t talk about your or my genitalia. While that might be a turn on to you or that particular person, it’s probably best kept for e-mails later in the relationship. Speaking from my experience, saying something like that is definitely one way to NOT get a response. Compliment her on something, tell her a little about yourself, and wait. Be sure you say a little more than just “hi” or “what’s up?” If you know something about her or her interests, perhaps you could use that to start the conversation. For example, “You just saw The Secretary too? I love that movie, especially that scene where….” or perhaps “Your cat is super cute. I used to have a cat named Bojangles.. blah blah blah.” You get the idea.

Grammar. Now I know I’m going to upset a few people with this one, and maybe some women don’t care if you can’t spell, use pronouns, or differentiate between they’re, there and their, but I can’t stress enough how important good grammar is in your written communications! There’s not much more off-putting than someone who doesn’t have a good grasp of the English (or your country’s) language. When the only thing the person on the receiving end of your e-mail has to go on is the way you write, it’s vital that you express yourself in a clear, concise and intelligent manner. You don’t need to be overly formal, just take some remedial “Reading, Writing and ‘Rithmatic” and put your knowledge to use. Who knows, maybe you’ll go to a school where they wear uniforms and use corporal punishment. Hehe.

Don’t rush. You might want to give a spanking, and she might want to receive one, but don’t rush this! The best conversation starters are probably not “Want a spanking?” Of course I do, but chances are you’re not the first that’s asked, so tell me something about yourself that might make me intrigued or want to write you back. You don’t have to have 39 years experience or expert skills. Tell her about your philosophy on spanking… for example whether you like to spank for fun, discipline, or pleasure. If you’re at a party, you might suggest a snack or a drink at a restaurant or even something along the lines of “a couple of my friends and I are going to Restaurant X for lunch. I’d love it if you would join us.” Leave it at that, though. Some women prefer not to be pressured to give an excuse, and if she’s interested in your offer, she will come. If she says she’s busy and would like to meet up later, hold her to it. It’s best to start the getting to know each other phase in a public place where there is no pressure. Don’t invite her to your room until later… unless, of course, you’re having a suite party.  Above all, relax and be yourself!

These are just a few of my own personal do’s and don’ts. I would love to hear yours, along with any interesting first time meeting stories.

Good luck and happy spankings!