Most of the time, we don’t even need to verbalize what’s about to happen. We speak in code.
“Go wait for me.” “Come here, we need to have a talk.”
But sometimes, you hear the words “You’re getting a spanking.” As the quintessential brat, the response is almost always “but I don’t want a spanking!” But what if you really do? And how do you get to this point in the first place?
As this is my first spanko relationship, it took a little while to get used to the dynamics that our interest in spanking brings to the table as well as our new relationship. I was shy and unsure of how to express my wants and desires. Now, through nearly three years of highly scientific research, I’ve narrowed down the three main ways to earn a spanking.
Intentional bratting— doing something naughty that warrants a spanking; being bad intentionally to elicit a reaction
Unintentional— forgetting to do something, waking up on the wrong side of the bed and needing a little attitude adjustment, any spank-worthy act committed unintentionally
Asking—looking at your spanker with pouty little eyes and saying “I need a spanking…”
So, how do you or your spankee go about “asking” for a spanking? Do you ask or accommodate or is it understood that only the spanker gets to make decisions about when the spankee is getting spanked? Is bratting frowned upon or do you enjoy playfulness?
March 12th, 2009 - 7:10 am
Chloe an enjoyable post .i should think that your spanker knows when you badly need big spanks and he or she administer them and you realise they are right and accept them When is your next bad tushy vid going up //?lots of love from tim xx
March 12th, 2009 - 10:43 am
Tim- Most of the time they are right!
There was a Bad Tushy video released today, I am not sure when the next one will come out. I am sure they would love to hear from you, though.
March 12th, 2009 - 11:02 am
I forgot to say, if you want to check it out, you can click the picture on the right side that says “Bad Tushy” underneath it and it will take you right to the site.
March 12th, 2009 - 2:52 pm
Hi Chloe!
I don’t do the brat thing very well when I’m the spankee, even though I spend a lot of time in a childlike mood. And if I were to say to my wife, “I don’t want a spanking,” I wouldn’t get one, so I’m not going there! But if I reprogram her TV remote, that is a sure way to get a good bottom warming! Funny how it’s always the small things that prove to be the most effective way of igniting that inner spark. When it’s my wife’s turn as spankee, she has a sly way of goading me on, and if she were to protest, well somehow her words of resistance always seem to get lost in the moment. Maybe it’s my selective hearing?
March 12th, 2009 - 4:36 pm
Great questions, Chloe. The thing that has always attracted me to spanking, since I was very young, is the real discipline aspect of it. Nobody ever asked for a spanking. That made no sense because, as a boy, I knew nothing about the desire for it. It was about being “bad” and getting punished for it, and there was something about spanking that made punishment so dramatic, arousing, and fascinating. It wasn’t until puberty that it became more complicated and obviously connected to desire. It was still about punishment, though. That’s what made it desirable.
Somewhere in my later teens I began to think about spanking as something you might do just for the fun of it, or maybe not always fun, but because of some deeper need that I didn’t understand. It wasn’t until I got into a romantic relationship that it started to make sense. With my first spanking partner I learned a lot about a lot of things. It’s a complex and beautiful thing, and I love when she asks for a spanking – not just wants one but *needs* one. It’s different than intentionally trying to provoke it. There’s a profound intimacy and honesty involved when she comes to you with her need. That’s when knowing her well, knowing just how she needs it, knowing the buttons to push and how to push them becomes so fulfilling.
Real discipline as a consequence for misbehavior is still at the center of my kink. Intentional bratting can be adorable and fun, but is really just a roundabout way of asking for it. But somewhere along the way I’ve realized that it’s not just discipline that attracts me. The spanking being needed, and me being needed, is a part of it I couldn’t do without.
March 13th, 2009 - 12:54 pm
chloe wow you got big spanks from David in your latest p. b. vid ,thanks for replying re bad tushy i shall check it out ,o dear your botty must be sore darling ,lol.have a nice weekend .lots of love from tim xx
March 15th, 2009 - 10:22 pm
Annapurna- Hehe. I seem to have that selective hearing sometimes too.
Brett- Totally agree! You know, I connected the punishment thing with the spanking when I was younger too. I didn’t fathom the idea of a spanking without “earning” it, so to speak. My cousin and I used to play spanking games, and we always incorporated a scene where we would steal candy (leggos) and then get spanked for it. I have definitely learned a lot too in the last couple of years, being more involved in the scene.
Thanks for your response!
Tim- Those were all filmed on different occasions, but yes, my bottom *is* sore, thanks for asking!!! Hehe.
March 18th, 2009 - 6:52 am
oh quit ya whinning and crying yes you do want a spanking lol
as for being told you going get a spanking i agree you would think you don’t want one but other time i think person/people is shock they told thetheat casue i think they not aware that their behavior is bad and proving they do need a spanking.
if out in public i think it good to speak in code lol so nobody around you going know what going happen when you get home or know chole about to get spanked casue i think if people knew they would follow you and herb home then peek in window lol might even be some of ya fans.