Time out is a pretty common practice that is seen with spanking, and occasionally if I have a good reason to request that I don’t get a spanking, an extra long corner time might be an alternative.
I almost hate to mention this, because it was used under circumstances I would not condone… But, I was watching The Secret Life of Bees the other day, and I saw the father in the movie punish his daughter by making her kneel in uncooked grits. That got me thinking about all those fantasies I had as a child that didn’t necessarily involve spanking, but being punished. I’ve mentioned in interviews that Mommie Dearest was one of those movies that, as a kid, allowed me to live out my punishment/ spanking fetish in a way that wouldn’t give me away. I even cut my own hair to punish myself one time. If both of those movies weren’t based on real life, I might be able to feel better about watching them in that way, but now I am thankfully over 18 and can participate and watch my fantasies fulfilled by consenting adults.
Anyway, back to our topic. As for me, I don’t currently get a lot of other punishment other than time out or occasionally line writing, though I would like to experiment…. But I guess that decision is up to Herb when and if he chooses to implement them. Do you use or receive alternative punishments, and if so, what are they? Have you ever thought about playing with other punishment types, or are you just more interested in spanking? What would circumstances warrant an alternative punishment instead of a spanking, or should another punishment accompany a spanking as a reinforcement?
February 27th, 2009 - 12:45 pm
to me i think spanking is a less painful punishment bet u would disagree but think about all these other punishemnt can be consider abuse too.
alot of peple feeling may be hurt more with other punishemnt like kneel in thing they may have less self esteem too if the other punishemnt were to happen to them
so spanking and getting spanked might work more for them or then again alot of people may have low self esteem with any punishment that inculde spankings
February 27th, 2009 - 1:59 pm
I do believe the punishment should fit the crime, although I do think spanking is a useful punishment.
I remember one time, my girlfriend was reading the Twilight series of books and was almost late to work because she had started reading and lost track of time. If that wasn’t bad enough I found out she had been putting off grading papers to read for about a week. (she is a teacher and therefore will remain nameless) So as her punishment I decided to ground her from reading until she had caught up on her grading. She did not like that at all, but it was an effective punishment.
February 28th, 2009 - 12:37 am
Although spanking is my main interest, there’s also the ‘being punished’ concept. Things like corner time, lines, mouthsoaping and the like appeal to me because they’re punishments. As for where they fit in with spanking or in place of, I think it ultimately comes down to what works for both top and bottom. I don’t get into the domestic discipline headspace so I can’t really say more than that.
On the idea of time outs, do you still have TOBY – the time out bear from Pixie?
February 28th, 2009 - 4:54 am
I punish Eve Howard daily by expecting her to laugh at my lame jokes. She punishes me by failing to do so, and thus, balance is maintained.
February 28th, 2009 - 7:56 am
Hey Chloe.
When I have to stand in the corner, I get the extra humiliation of having to wear a brown paper bag over my head. I usually have to write a message on it about why I am being punished. This is often used as a stand alone punishment for me. Very embarrassing.
Erica
February 28th, 2009 - 1:09 pm
Chloe its spankings every time they are much kinder .chloe you look lovely on your video on spankedcallgirls ,Clare gave you big spanks didnt she cutie? lots of love from tim xx
March 1st, 2009 - 12:05 pm
Punishments here are focused on spanking. The physical exchange and the *clear* start and stopping points work for us. Feeling ‘alone’ or not being sure when the punishment is over can be issues when non-spanking punishments are used. Do use corner time, but that’s always been in addition to a spanking (and has occurred before the end of the spanking… never after).
However, that’s just the way it works for us. We have had discipline relationships with several different friends over the years and often times distance has been an issue. Certainly have used corner-time as a punishment… sometimes requiring different states of undress. Writing lines or essays that center on the misdeed is a common punishment too. Early bed time or loss of a privilege (like on-line time) is another. Mouth soaping for cussing has worked too.
Have certainly read about many-many other punishments options… anal figging, cleaning in the nude, public embarrassment, enemas… some sort of sexual punishment (no orgasm)… and, we did see the punishment you’re talking about. Really though, for us… a spanking is the thing. It, by far, works the best!
Great question,
Todd & Suzy
March 2nd, 2009 - 6:19 pm
The Secret Life of Bees was a book, I read it in HS. Excellent book, haven’t seen the movie the other day.
After punishment spankings I often have to stand in the corner for 5-10 minutes, but it’s never used as a punishment on it’s own.
The only thing I’ve had *instead* of a spanking, is line writing. But it was a long time ago.
March 2nd, 2009 - 6:22 pm
Wow, I meant “haven’t seen the movie yet” whew, and it’s only 6:20 and I’m exhausted!
March 3rd, 2009 - 2:57 pm
Love the additional pictures. The top one is just so adorable. The expression, the dress, Toby – it just really works.
March 3rd, 2009 - 4:15 pm
well personally i would like to be spanked rather then to write lines … i hate them.. but if i have to choose what i would like to be spanked with i would a hand or a belt or a flyswatter .. its all depends on my daddy .. and his mood
March 3rd, 2009 - 7:53 pm
Chloe, I think that what you’re saying is what distinguishes a discipline fetish from a more basic spanking fetish. Unless we’re really just into spanking for its own sake, then any punishment can be a valid part of the bigger picture. There may be a variety of things we’re looking for. Someone being in control. Someone caring and helping to make life better. Being held accountable. Whatever’s wanted, it’s more complicated, and I think more meaningful, than simply a sore bottom.
March 3rd, 2009 - 11:03 pm
Mike- I think how much it hurts depends on what the alternative punishment is… Sometimes a spanking can hurt quite a bit. Self-esteem of the spankee is very important to pay attention to, that’s why I am such a strong advocate of safety and communication and the context of a loving relationship. No matter what the punishment, it’s important that the spankee know what is happening is out of love and care for the spankee.
Jeff- Sometimes the most effective punishment is the one that relates directly to the crime. When I was in school, I had a bad internet addiction that would often distract me from my studies… Your idea of grounding from the distraction isn’t a bad idea.
Daniel- I do still have TOBY! Thank you for the reminder! I just edited this post to include a picture with that dear bear in it. =P
Tony- Oh, that isn’t a punishment at all! I love your jokes (not sucking up at all)!
Erica- I haven’t heard of that… I imagine it would be embarrassing. We sometimes use forced nudity to add to the corner time.
Tim- Thank you! Yes, she did!
A.S.S.- I agree. Nothing is more quick and effective that a good spanking. I can definitely see the being alone thing… sometimes if a spanking is super emotional and then I have to do corner time, it turns into a bad situation for both of us. I’ve always been intrigued by the writing about the misdeed, or keeping a punishment log.
Marie- You will have to let us know how different the movie is from the book, if you finally do get to see it. It is a good movie. It’s pretty rare for me to be punished without a spanking, and I often get corner time after the spanking too.
Daniel- Thanks!
Brett- How do you always manage to say what I was trying to say in a better way? Totally agree. Maybe you should write this blog!
March 4th, 2009 - 6:11 pm
Grounding and/or loss of allowance can bith be pretty effective!